If one question leads to another question, the first question has not been answered. Herein the thrust, the loaded stamen, of Buddha’s Flower Sermon. Beauty is the answer to everything.
When I was in primary school I got into a physical fight with a classmate. It ended briefly with me sitting on his chest. And I was crying. And he looked up at me and said, “It’s OK. It’s OK.”
The term “conflict resolution” is misleading, even contradictory. Conflict does not move us toward a resolution but away from it. The prerequisite for problem-solving is quiet. Quiet invites the truth; noise rejects it.
The main thing is not to want anything. To welcome what comes and to play with that.
Something else: If we hope to prevent our children from becoming little doings, indistinguishable from the herd, we will need to teach ourselves how to do nothing.
True power does not oppose, resist, calculate or speechify. That’s ego’s game.