Selfishness is making myself smaller than I am. It is reducing myself to an object.
Selfishness is identifying myself with this thing or that thing.
I am not this thing or that thing. I am no-thing.
I am not the body. (I have a body.)
I am not the mind. (I have a mind.)
I am the mind/body is the cardboard habitation of a pinched and separate self.
Whoa! You mean all this time my mail has been going to that guy?