The reason I want you to change is so that I can avoid the hard work of changing myself.
Anger, resentment, frustration, non-forgiveness—these are projections of something within me onto someone other than me. Projection locates a problem where it cannot be solved. It ensures that the problem does not get solved!
Who benefits from this arrangement? Ego does.
Blaming is our most enduring and devious dysfunction. It germinates in judgement. It is nourished in complaint.