Everything happens as it must. No exceptions. When I say ‘This is unacceptable!’ I’ve unfriended Life. Vastly more suffering is caused by taking offence than giving offence.
Whatever happens in this moment happens for the best. Watch closely. See if it isn’t so.
We cannot change ourselves by trying to change ourselves. Siddhartha Gautama tried all manner of austerities and penances before quitting them all and becoming the Buddha. Orchids make no effort. Neither shall we.
Men come for counselling because they want something to change. The challenge they face is that for something to change, something needs to die. Change and death are dance partners. What ends here?
A mind that is always active inevitably coarsens and decays, as anything does that’s used incessantly. For life to unfold in a loving and spontaneous way, one thing is essential: a quiet mind.