It helps to abandon notions of good and bad. We don’t really know what is good and what is bad. Former addicts and alcoholics tell me that addiction was the best thing that ever happened to them.
The state of sobriety expresses the power and coherence of the full stop.
You can do anything you want—just don’t try to repeat an experience.
Step Four in AA’s addiction recovery program invites us to make a fearless and searching moral inventory of ourselves. The requirement of this inventory is but minimally met if its only yield is a laggard’s list of shortcomings and missteps. The real work in Step Four is to identify and investigate our dependencies. When a dependency is discovered, the remedial act cannot be second-guessed, negotiated or dithered over. We take an axe to its root.
Rare is the man who has no dependencies and, therefore, no anxiety; who can let come what comes and let go what goes.