The pursuit of pleasure, whether it’s a needle in the arm or a trip to St. Barts, always takes place against a background of pain. True happiness can only be found inside the self.
Tag Archives: avoidance
At the summit of stupidity
Blaming. Why? Because it locates a problem precisely where it cannot be solved.
All dressed up
Fear plays this little trick—it dresses itself up to look like what it isn’t. Parsimony. Protection. Prudence. Planning. Precaution.
Worry—that’s not fear, is it? Just looking at things from every possible angle, right?
If we could see worry for what it is, we would never worry again.
When sex is violence
Sex is violence when it wants something, when it issues from insufficiency or pain.
Some men use sex as a way to assuage feelings of loneliness, to anesthetize jealousy, or to stake a claim. When sex is used like this, as a means of ameliorating our least controlled emotions, of placating an unstable and insecure sense of self, of seeking forgiveness or fixing something, sex is violence.
Sex is violent when sex is repetitive, mechanical or forced. There is no dharma in pharma.
The fearful man is not afraid of this or that. He is afraid of Life. Talk no more of triggers. Fear is the issue, not the objects fear creates to be afraid of.