It is often a variation on the same affliction: a man attacked, disabled or weaponized by his own mind while nursing a belief that the source of his suffering lies outside of himself.
Over-the-top praise casts a shadow: under-the-table aspersion. The stoic practices indifference to both.
Why would a man crave praise unless he has doubts about his praise-worthiness?
A gentleman does not: (1) claim credit, (2) curry favour, (3) deflect blame.
A tendency in parents is to vastly overestimate the degree of influence they have over their children. Parents do matter but less than they imagine and often not for the reasons they think.