If I am angry or frustrated, I am going in the wrong direction.
When something terrible happens, ego demands that someone be punished. In simpler times, they used a proxy. Two kids were pulled from the goatherd. One had its throat slit, the other was driven into the desert, taking with it all the sins of the community.
Ah, those were the days!
I do not have a problem with this person or that situation. I have an unacknowledged problem with myself. It’s like, as the carpenter explained, I have a two-by-four imbedded in my eye.
If I judge you, I reject you. This is how ego validates itself.
Emotions begin as thoughts in the head. These mind forms are discharged into the body where they reconstitute as feelings. These feelings then move ‘back upstairs’ to inflate and validate the thoughts that conceived them. Then you hear: “Let me tell you what she did to me.”