Here it is, the hardest thing: Do what is necessary. Do not do what is not necessary.
Men come for counselling because they want something to change. The challenge they face is that for something to change, something needs to die. Change and death are dance partners. What ends here?
All ego can do is resist, judge, blame, stand against, object to. Observe its response to this: Whatever happens in the present moment, even if it’s hard or painful, is for the best.
When there’s no ‘hard’ in our lives, no challenge or difficulty, we become soft as over-boiled potatoes. Take our diet. When we abandoned raw hard-to-chew food in favour of soft, processed food, our facial structure changed. We were handsome once.
Stopping on the outside—well, that’s one thing. Stopping on the inside is another thing.
Man’s chief problem is that he thinks involuntarily. He does not choose to think. He is being thought.