Al Osten, lifetime partner of Buddy Victor, speaking about how they make decisions: “You don’t have a discussion. It just happens.” Words or no words, this is true about everything: It just happens. Relationships of oneness are relatively rare. The word ‘discussion’ derives from the Latin for smash apart.
A good listener has a silent mind. Listen is an anagram of silent.
Do we need words to communicate with one another? No. We need words to impart information.
Good communication is essential. Sometimes words may be necessary.
Some of us have a tendency to hold forth, to speechify. Awareness of this stops it. But the awareness must be right there, in the moment of loquacity.