Does patriarchy work? Of course it does! (It works for men.) But things change, and now “wife”, as a serviceable term, stands on the cusp of retirement.
Discipline has nothing to do with subjugation, suppression or standing at attention. It does not mean replacing one pattern of behaviour with another. It means “to learn.”
We must be completely free in order to learn. Freedom begins with the realization of how trapped we are.
The least free are the most conventional.