The really important stuff isn’t taught in school because, well, school thinks it isn’t important. Not to lay blame, just to say: My most challenging clients, the hardest to work with, are intellectuals.
The main thing is not to see a man as he sees himself.
Most of the men I see for counselling acknowledge fear or anxiety as their least-controlled emotion. They see this as a personal problem but of course it isn’t; it’s environmental, structural, political. The chief difficulty with fear is that it turns men into slaves.
I cannot help anyone. That’s just the fact of the matter. The best and most I can do is to establish a set of conditions whereby a man is enabled to help himself.
Sometimes (quite often!) a client will say something that causes me to laugh out loud. I am not normally a LOL kind of guy. So when hilarity erupts, I’m surprising both of us.