It’s the one thing we have in common—we’re all passing away. “Tomorrow you will go away, or I shall, and never shall we see one another again.”
“Was I a man or a jerk?” asked the celebrated author Saul Bellow on his deathbed. This is a classic guy question. The answer to guy questions is typically not either/or but both/and.
A loss, reversal, rejection or sudden diminishment—these experiences are mini-deaths, practice runs.
Pain can be joy for this reason: It takes attention from the mind and directs it straight into the body. Attention to the body thrills the body. There is no right time or wrong time for this to happen. Sometimes, just before death, the thrill-of-it-all will take us out of our bed, walk us over to the table and say, “What’s for supper?”