Getting to yes

A man is either developed or deformed by adversity. It depends on the attitude he takes when things go wrong, on whether he expands into yes or contracts into no.

Cracked open

In the same way that plants need soil to fulfill their potential, men need silence. Only silence can liberate us from the shallow masculine, from fix, compete, achieve, win. No silence, no growth.

Male initiation

Men must be initiated in order to prevent them from becoming loose canons. (Women do not need to be initiated; femaleness is its own initiation.)

Initiators must be elephants, men of wisdom. In the absence of the deep masculine, shadow initiations occur. These peer-driven exercises are transmogrifications, stupid and brutal. Men of promise wind up dead and twisted at the foot of the stairs.