Emotions, no matter how intense and virulent, are not the problem. Our identification with emotions—that’s the problem. This Christmas we offer ourselves the gift of detachment.
Is there anything more dispiriting than the attempt to rekindle romance?
Trying is failing.
And love is not personal.
On their own, thoughts are not a problem. Believing them, taking them seriously, identifying with them—now that’s a problem. The challenge: Don’t believe everything you think. Timesaver: If it’s negative, dismiss it.
Ministry of Natural Resources: Don’t feed the wildlife.
Zen: Don’t feed your thoughts.
The father watches his son play with his toys. His attention goes to the boy, not the toys. In like manner, we watch the mind, aware of but indifferent to its laddish fascinations.