If we are helping someone repeatedly, then we are not helping him.
Ego is the energy of attachment, of clinging-ness, to name, gene pool, job title, wealth, physical appearance, education, family. These are not wrong, just temporary. So ego is also the energy of fear.
We are not what we identify with. I identify with what I see in the mirror, but the image isn’t me. Narcissus failed to make this distinction.
There is the Self—serene, untroubled, wise. And then there is the pseudo-self—insecure, insufficient, resentful, confused. Counselling to facilitate the repair and maintenance of the pseudo-self is really a game of Whack-A-Mole.
Everything that happens, happens by itself. But, weirdly, we think we’re doing it.