Men come for counselling because they want something to change. The challenge they face is that for something to change, something needs to die. Change and death are dance partners. What ends here?
Time’s first function is to bring an end to things. Nevertheless, happy birthday!
If it weren’t for endings, we’d be swallowed whole by an irremediable boredom.
We are mostly untutored in the essentials—death, loss, temporality and diminishment. Grief is ego’s response to an existential fact: “Everything passes / Everything changes.” It’s an unwillingness to let go of what’s gone.
Beginnings are easy. Not so, endings. Every ending is a seminar on surrender.