“Who gives this woman to be married to this man?”
The ineluctable fact of racism exposes our enslavement to the past. Men are free who are free from the past. Free men are not old men refurbished; they’re new men.
Most of the men I see for counselling acknowledge fear or anxiety as their least-controlled emotion. They see this as a personal problem but of course it isn’t; it’s environmental, structural, political. The chief difficulty with fear is that it turns men into slaves.
If a man uses his freedom to pursue more pleasures and accumulate more possessions, then he is not really free. He is as conditioned, as enslaved and compliant, as the miller’s ox.