Well, no. Character comes from the Greek word for stamped or engraved. It’s a man’s distinctive mark, that which specifically does not change. Today, character is used interchangeably with personality, referring to that hogs wallop of preferences and inclinations. These don’t change either. These, too, are fixed. They can be dropped, died to, abandoned, but not fixed. A man cannot know this without having had his bell rung.
The self that can be renovated, worked on, improved—that’s not the Self.
First things first: We are never angry, aggrieved, upset or resentful for the reason we think. We can start there—but not linger. My job is not to pad and protect the ego.
There is the Self—serene, untroubled, wise. And then there is the pseudo-self—insecure, insufficient, resentful, confused. Counselling to facilitate the repair and maintenance of the pseudo-self is really a game of Whack-A-Mole.
“I feel lost.” Now, this is not a problem; it’s a mystery. It only becomes a problem when False Self (nabob ego) inserts itself into the condition and says, “You shouldn’t feel lost.”