No one “blows it,” not even the crucifiers. Everyone acts according to the fullest extent of their consciousness. Crime and punishment? Punishment is itself a crime.
Let us remind ourselves that none of the virtues—love, forgiveness, generosity, courage et al—require any effort. The only thing effort can do is turn them into a religion.
The whole notion of sacrifice is rooted in the idea that I am bad or deficient and I must pay a price for that. Millennia ago, the Holy Temple of Jerusalem was basically a ‘divine’ slaughterhouse where bulls, rams and a variety of other livestock had their throats cut as an expiation for the sins of humans. Today sin-excited Christians flagellate themselves on Good Friday while the less theatrical cleanse themselves via weekly acts of murmured penance.
Diet is derived from the Greek word for ‘a way of life’. We achieve spiritual weightlessness to the extent we drop the past and forgive everyone for everything. This is how angels fly.
Forgiveness has naught to do with making apologies. In fact, it has nothing to do with words at all. Forgiveness is the recognition of myself in you, of our deeply held common interest.