Habitually yours

My habits, routines and repetitions—these are barriers to love, not entry points.

Bundled up

As a person, a mere mind/body, I’m a bundle of memories and habits, fears and desires, obsessions and aversions, likes and dislikes. This is just a temporary arrangement. I am not a carry-on.

Limited

The personality is built on whatever we identify with. One man is a sports fan; another, a Scientologist. A third man watches pornography; a fourth hyper-cleans his car. Whatever we think or do habitually is the personality. Donald Winnicott called it the false self.

Purifying the mind

The truth reveals itself only when we have consciously abandoned the false—our habits and dependencies; our fears and expectations; our knee-jerk negativity and every one of the ideas we hold about ourselves.

A momentary self

Whatever defines us, confines us. (Put the man without a role on suicide watch.) Our most severe confinement is a self-limitation—the memory-based personality, comprising the habits and preferences of a momentary self.