The truth reveals itself only when we have consciously abandoned the false—our habits and dependencies; our fears and expectations; our knee-jerk negativity and every one of the ideas we hold about ourselves.
Whatever defines us, confines us. (Put the man without a role on suicide watch.) Our most severe confinement is a self-limitation—the memory-based personality, comprising the habits and preferences of a momentary self.
Some of us have a tendency to hold forth, to speechify. Awareness of this stops it. But the awareness must be right there, in the moment of loquacity.
Don’t take sex too seriously. It is, after all, just a habit. Habits can be indulged, cultivated, hung onto, detached from or broken. Whatever seems right and natural, that’s the thing to do.
What we call the human person is a 50 trillion-celled constellation of habits and memories. When these go, so does the person.