We seek to enrich ourselves through a lifelong process of acquisition. And to fatten our memory banks through experiences of food, travel and various entertainments. None of this brings us closer to ourselves. “Most of us die wishing we could live again,” observed Nisargadatta.
It took me quite a while to understand how important it is to exercise the face. To smile.
Grievances are the acidulous fruit of a wrong belief that outer circumstances create or destroy my happiness. In reality, nothing outside of me can do that. Pleasure and happiness are not the same.
First of all, we look for happiness outside of ourselves. It can be an arduous, disappointing ride before the folly of this approach reveals itself. Even then, some plug on, like ghost figures.
The really important stuff isn’t taught in school because, well, school thinks it isn’t important. Not to lay blame, just to say: My most challenging clients, the hardest to work with, are intellectuals.