When there’s no ‘hard’ in our lives, no challenge or difficulty, we become soft as over-boiled potatoes. Take our diet. When we abandoned raw hard-to-chew food in favour of soft, processed food, our facial structure changed. We were handsome once.
Comfort and security do not change a man. Only adversity can do that. We are hallowed and habilitated in difficult times.
The characteristics of a healthy masculinity are energy and confidence. To develop these, we need challenges and difficulties. Life is exceedingly generous in this respect—and preternaturally precise. We get what we need.
No man is a hero who has not completed a course in hardship.
Nothing changes until acceptance enters the picture.
Men's Work 