A year before he died, Johnny Cash recorded a version of the Nine Inch Nails song “Hurt.” I listened to this song yesterday. Twice. It brought me closer to tears than I’ve been in a dry while.
No one has power to ruin my life. Am I ruined? Then I ruined myself. This is the realization that allowed Socrates to say, “You can kill me but you cannot hurt me.”
Disappointment, resentment, frustration—these are personal failings. They originate with me; I sustain them. I am responsible for me. If I am hurt, I hurt myself. If I am helped, I help myself.