The only way to defeat anger is by surrendering to it. Anger resisted is anger invigorated and prolonged. We resist anger when we rationalize it or apportion blame. This empowers anger, turning it into a marauding perma-guest, an entirely negative entity whose sole aim is the complete destruction of our inner peace. Surrender is accomplished by accepting how awful anger feels and then by consciously sinking straight into it, breathing right into its roiling, viral center, doing that for as long as it takes. There’s an alchemical gift at the end of this. The gift isn’t received. It’s revealed.
Inner peace is a state of being, not an emotion. Emotions are a response in the body to thoughts in the head about something that happens. Inner peace is indifferent to what happens.
One way to secure a measure of inner calm is to immediately delete “should” from our vocabulary. When we act from should, the act is corrupt. The true man does not contradict himself.
A Course in Miracles provides the sine qua non for the treatment of anger, even if it’s received like a slap in the face: “I am never upset for the reason I think.”
It is impossible for the man who breathes diaphragmatically to have a problem.