If I don’t know who I am, I’ll go wherever ignorance takes me.
I cannot know and love you more than I know and love myself.
Anger cannot be fixed. (Counsellors are not veterinarians.) Neither can it be managed. (What would that even look like, a man managing his anger?) We must confess our rage, withdraw from every interaction, then observe the emotion the way a cat observes a bird.
At around the age of 45, a lot of men realize that what sustained them in life’s first part will be insufficient to the requirements of life’s even more arduous second part. And in realizing this, he also realizes he should have started 10 years earlier when he wasn’t carrying 20 extra pounds.
The idea isn’t to change yourself but to accept yourself. Acceptance changes everything.