We tend, wrongly, to judge people by their actions. It’s an understandable mistake but still a mistake. It comes from the belief that we are what we do. That we are human doings.
Because it is a background virtue, humility (derived from the Latin for ‘low’) is best described in terms of what it isn’t. It isn’t ambitious, holds no opinions, declines to judge, has no enemies, does nothing unnecessarily, is unconcerned with image, doesn’t need notes.
If instead of blaming others I blame myself, what have I accomplished? Blame itself is the cardinal stupidity, not what is objected to, condemned or attacked.
What happened had to happen. How do we know this? Because it happened.
We love our enemies when we have no enemies. We have no enemies when judgment stops and the blame game ends, when we extricate ourselves from the habit of making other people wrong.