Mind is an exceedingly industrious storyteller. Memory creates an ‘I was’ narrative; imagination constructs an ‘I will be’ narrative. Simultaneously, like a mad samurai, it slices the present into good, bad, doesn’t matter.
If I say I love you, but there is something about you I wish to change, then I do not really love you.
The man who is violent but thinks he shouldn’t be? That man has two problems.
A stream of judgements, according to which the world is divided into Like and Don’t Like, constitutes virtually all of our thought content. To stop thinking, stop judging. The death of judgement is the birth of contentment.
The reason I want you to change is so that I can avoid the hard work of changing myself.
Anger, resentment, frustration, non-forgiveness—these are projections of something within me onto someone other than me. Projection locates a problem where it cannot be solved. It ensures that the problem does not get solved!
Who benefits from this arrangement? Ego does.
Blaming is our most enduring and devious dysfunction. It germinates in judgement. It is nourished in complaint.