Co-dependence is a useful term. It means: What we cling to, we suffer from. Hold on to nothing.
Problems proliferate whenever we hang on to something, when we cling to it.
A loss, reversal, rejection or sudden diminishment—these experiences are mini-deaths, practice runs.
Ultimately, nothing is mine, and everything I call “mine” is even now in the process of going back to where it came from. Spiritual maturity is our readiness to let go of everything.
There is no problem with pleasure, none whatsoever. Until we want more of it. And then, furred and coal-eyed, there it is, a scurry of pain, of not having what we want.
Let come what comes, let go what goes.