A quiet mind is not an end in itself. It clears the stage.
Life is the actor; we are the acted upon. Or, per Eckhart Tolle, Life is the dancer; we are the dance. So, no, we’re not driving the bus. And there are no coincidences.
The true man is two-faced to this extent: He plays the game alright but it doesn’t matter to him whether he wins or loses.
Conventional wisdom tells us that Life is a serious business. I remember one man telling me he had taught his three boys the value of a dollar. Therein a good illustration of why sons tend not to turn to their fathers for spiritual direction.