When sex is violence

Sex is violence when it wants something, when it issues from insufficiency or pain.

Some men use sex as a way to assuage feelings of loneliness, to anesthetize jealousy, or to stake a claim. When sex is used like this, as a means of ameliorating our least controlled emotions, of placating an unstable and insecure sense of self, of seeking forgiveness or fixing something, sex is violence.

Sex is violent when sex is repetitive, mechanical or forced. There is no dharma in pharma.

 

Messy business

Until a man sees himself as he is, he is flying blind. He goes from one mess to another.

Eventually, he becomes embittered. Or, with the ‘help’ of drugs, sex, work or video games, he numbs out.

In extremis, he finds himself in an ache-scape, in the midst of a great loneliness.

Now, nothing that is, is without a divine aspect. Is this mess the one that reveals the man to himself?