It is often the case that men were taught as boys that feelings are dangerous and inefficient and that it is better not to have them. This is a mostly wordless transmission passed on by a man who received the same teaching from his father. So it is natural and necessary for men to work with other men on the problems men have. Are women ready for this? They’ve never not been ready.
What the mind suppresses, the body expresses.
Dis-ease begins in the mind.
Man to man: “We can’t eat like we did when we were nineteen.”
First things first: We are never angry, aggrieved, upset or resentful for the reason we think. We can start there—but not linger. My job is not to pad and protect the ego.
Military posture is not good posture. Our spine is naturally curved, not ramrod straight.
The human head weighs fifteen pounds, give or take. It is supported by a complexity of ligament and bone. It rests, like a ball on a pole, on the uppermost point of the cervical spine.
When we consult a cellphone, the head falls forward. Repetitive slumping turns us C-shaped. The neck develops a compensatory musculature, a pronounced thickness extending from the base of the skull to the top of the back. We lose the ability to breathe diaphragmatically. Our internal organs are forced to function in an ever-diminishing space.
See how children walk, how regal they are. Good posture requires no effort. Old age is bad posture.