Al Osten, lifetime partner of Buddy Victor, speaking about how they make decisions: “You don’t have a discussion. It just happens.” Words or no words, this is true about everything: It just happens. Relationships of oneness are relatively rare. The word ‘discussion’ derives from the Latin for smash apart.
The more we subscribe to the idea of ‘other people’—that is, of people separate from and unrelated to ourselves—the more suffering we create. Love does not make these distinctions. How can I say that I help others when the others are myself.