It is often a variation on the same affliction: a man attacked, disabled or weaponized by his own mind while nursing a belief that the source of his suffering lies outside of himself.
Fear exists in the head as thoughts. Thoughts are projected onto individuals or groups in the way that a movie is projected onto a screen. People who are ‘different’ know how this works.
I do not have a problem with this person or that situation. I have an unacknowledged problem with myself. It’s like, as the carpenter explained, I have a two-by-four imbedded in my eye.
Projection is perception. Thus, everyone I see represents an aspect of myself. Do I judge you? I judge myself. Do I harm you? I harm myself. We create the world we live in.
Men with the biggest egos are also the most hostile. Hostility may be projected or repressed. If projected, it’s impossible to mistake—somebody’s getting blamed, shamed, laughed at or shot. Repressed anger is less obvious, but it too displays itself, often as impatience, judgment, criticism, passive-aggression, false jollity or do-gooding. Perhaps fearing that something worse lies beneath it, men are generally incurious about their anger. On a functional level, they’re basically OK with it.