Skip the marriage.
It is either the funniest or the saddest thing I’ve ever heard: “I’ll try to do better.” This is failure announcing itself. They make television comedies out of trying. It’s ego’s swagger stick.
Loyalty is not a virtue—unless omerta is, unless conformity, accommodation and codes of conduct are, unless the virtues are strategic, personal and exclusionary. Make no vows, Jesus said, speaking to the deaf.