The emotion of fear ranges from a feeling of chronic unease or worry to anxiety about relationships to a full-blown panic attack. In the fear state, man loses his intelligence. He’s essentially feral.
Al Osten, lifetime partner of Buddy Victor, speaking about how they make decisions: “You don’t have a discussion. It just happens.” Words or no words, this is true about everything: It just happens. Relationships of oneness are relatively rare. The word ‘discussion’ derives from the Latin for smash apart.
The word relationship refers neither to me nor to you but to the space between us. Human relationships may be navigated, as we do when walking along crowded city streets, but not controlled.
Our most important relationship is our relationship to what is. All of our other relationships are expressions of this one.
I cannot know and love you more than I know and love myself.