First off, stop trying

Can we try to be kind, try to be virtuous, try to be happy? Well, yes. Trying is always an option. But what has trying ever accomplished? Turn away from the man whose best counsel is to try harder. He’s an emissary of miserableness.

Change it

Resignation is not acceptance. Resignation is a mental construction, a poor-me narrative. Acceptance is a thrumming vitality, a sense-charged liveliness. In the precise moment that a situation is completely accepted, the situation changes.