Seer

A therapist’s first and pre-eminent responsibility is to see a man as he is, not as he takes himself to be.

Krishnamurti: In the seeing is doing.

Pause

We pause to contemplate the unbridgeable gulf between a reaction and a response.

A template for good-bye

We die as we live. It cannot be otherwise.

Every loss, every mishap and diminishment, is a mini-death. How do we respond?

The way we do anything is the way we do everything.

Man as orphan

Keep this principle uppermost: What happens is relatively unimportant. How we respond to what happens is absolutely important.

Life is a series of surprises. That is where reality lies—in the unexpected and the unpredictable. We are not in control. We are being written, played, blown across the sky.

One thing we do control: Our response to what happens. Men who have no knowledge of this truth look for enemies. They look for someone to blame.

Two ways to meditate. Female way: Sit down, watch your thoughts. Male way: Witness your response to what happens as it happens. Man as orphan. No past, no future, nailed into Now-ness.