We do not shape events. We respond to them. “Life is the dancer. We are the dance.”
“That should not have happened.” This is crazy talk. It happened. Now what?
Our response to what happens is vastly more important than what happens.
A Course in Miracles provides the sine qua non for the treatment of anger, even if it’s received like a slap in the face: “I am never upset for the reason I think.”
There is no escape from victimhood until we realize that we are responsible for our suffering. This doesn’t mean we’re in control of what happens—we’re not—but we are in complete control of our response to what happens. I can be naked and bleeding and not be a victim. A victim is a victim of himself.