A Course in Miracles provides the sine qua non for the treatment of anger, even if it’s received like a slap in the face: “I am never upset for the reason I think.”
There is no escape from victimhood until we realize that we are responsible for our suffering. This doesn’t mean we’re in control of what happens—we’re not—but we are in complete control of our response to what happens. I can be naked and bleeding and not be a victim. A victim is a victim of himself.
I bear no responsibility for what I cannot change. This excludes my attitude.
Some people think that they are taking responsibility for their problems by worrying about them. That’s actually the opposite of what they’re doing.
We are not in control. Most men don’t understand this. Reason? No credible person sat them down when they were boys and spelled it out.
Knowing I’m not in control, I am a stranger to disappointment and bitterness. I am not what happens; I am to whom it happens.
The responsible man is response-able. He responds to Life. He does not react. Re-action is the forte of the fool. We cannot step into the same river twice.