Keep 10 percent to your self. There’s no need to disclose everything, especially when you’ve expressed a good or conferred a benevolence.
We bridle our anger when we stop answering questions we haven’t been asked.
Back in the day, when I was facilitating men’s groups, we had rules. For example: No venting. The problem with venting is that while the venter feels briefly better, everyone else feels worse.
Michael Pollan’s little dictum has resonance: “Eat food. Not too much. Mostly plants.”
It is the strangest thing, finding a deeper satisfaction in what I refrain from doing than in what I actually do. And restraint is still the most beautiful word in the English language.