There is no better exposition of the explosive EIGHT-type, of his force and folly, than the documentary film David Crosby: Remember my name. EIGHTs rank high on my list of most memorable characters.
Patriarchal structures cannot be tweaked, tinkered with or even reformed. They have to be dismantled. A patriarchy cannot do what it was specifically designed not to do.
The inner journey begins with a feeling of sharp remorse. Richard Rohr calls this the ‘Oh, shit!’ moment. It happens when we’re eyeball-to-eyeball with our primary fault.
Don’t forget that failure is your friend. So when it knocks at your door, make it some tea. After the age of 30, says Richard Rohr, success has nothing more to teach us.
Imagine the havoc we’d wreak if at every step along the way we got exactly what we wanted.
You’re not in control. Be grateful.