First things first: We are never angry, aggrieved, upset or resentful for the reason we think. We can start there—but not linger. My job is not to pad and protect the ego.
Every idea I have of myself is a bad idea.
I am not a limited and separate self.
I do not need to be fixed or improved on.
All that’s required is a capacity for spontaneous, unconditioned seeing.
I need to examine my habits.
“Sex is a habit.”
Watch closely as a man trains his dog. All of his attention flows into the dog. Soon enough, the dog is beautifully, wonderfully trained. He orbits his master.
A well-trained mind functions exactly like that. At night, it sleeps quietly by the bed. It declines, during the day, to chase after squirrels. It looks straight ahead.
A man is the net result of the attention he gives to his mind. Attention is the zafu on which mindfulness sits. We need the mindfulness movement. Today it is perhaps the case that more men give more attention to their cellphones than they give to themselves.
Pornography is a big issue for men. But really, it’s a symptom. The problem is an untrained mind. Minds become befouled and confused by an absence of attention. Where attention is, purity also is.
Attention does not work tomorrow. It works now. Let your breath carry you into the purity of the one pathless moment.