Man is a three-brained animal: head, heart, gut. The gut brain is the sex centre. It has two modes of being: attraction or indifference. Pills to enhance sexual function can override indifference but they cannot alter it.
When Aladdin rubbed his hands together, the friction was sufficient to summon the genie in his ring. When his mother buffed his magic lamp, an even greater genie appeared. Apparently, we need friction.
Don’t take sex too seriously. It is, after all, just a habit. Habits can be indulged, cultivated, hung onto, detached from or broken. Whatever seems right and natural, that’s the thing to do.
Sex is not bad. It’s the desire for sex that creates a howling host of problems. It’s the same with possessions. We have them because we want them, not because we need them.
When spontaneity departs the bedroom, sex is a habit. Break it.
My 17-year-old self says, “Are you out of your mind?”