Conventional wisdom tells us that Life is a serious business. I remember one man telling me he had taught his three boys the value of a dollar. Therein a good illustration of why sons tend not to turn to their fathers for spiritual direction.
Fatherhood can begin and end in an instant, but in that instant one man calls another man “father”.
A good father is a godfather. It’s a temporary assignment. There is no biological connection, nor any need for one.
Un-fathered men are loose cannons.