Yes, relationships can be worked on, and sometimes these efforts are successful. But love is not an effort; it cannot be worked on or deemed a success.
It is impossible to fail on purpose. The man who does this has, after all, succeeded. Failure is the Paschal mystery. It’s where the new me is forged.
Don’t forget that failure is your friend. So when it knocks at your door, make it some tea. After the age of 30, says Richard Rohr, success has nothing more to teach us.
There is a First Agreement that obviates the need for any other agreement. And it is this: I agree to be guided from within.
“Trust thyself: every heart vibrates to that iron string.”
Trying to be successful, trying to be beautiful, trying to be loved—these futilities have trying as their common element. Let’s be clear about what trying is: trying is failing. Nothing beautiful tries.