Weil was dazzling, brilliant and on a bad day a bit of a scold. “You have forgotten to ask each other the only question that really matters: ‘What are you going through?’” Suffering has three stages, expands JC: separation from what we thought we knew; initiation into a deeper way of being; return to where we started from.
Why on earth are humans in this predicament? Same as always—selfishness, mainly.
There is no escape from victimhood until we realize that we are responsible for our suffering. This doesn’t mean we’re in control of what happens—we’re not—but we are in complete control of our response to what happens. I can be naked and bleeding and not be a victim. A victim is a victim of himself.
More suffering is caused by men who take offence than give offence. The quicker we take offence, the more resistance we have. Jesus’ Zen-like teaching on this dukes the mind: Resist not evil.
Co-dependence is a useful term. It means: What we cling to, we suffer from. Hold on to nothing.