Nothing changes until acceptance enters the picture.
We cannot help anyone. The most we can do is create a condition whereby someone is enabled to help himself.
Right action relieves suffering; wrong action intensifies it.
The only devil is dependency.
Wanting change prevents change. Change happens when we stop wanting. The essential thing is to investigate wanting, to enter the home of insecurity and introduce yourself to the tenant.
Graduating students are routinely told they can be anything they want to be. This is misleading. I cannot want to be virtuous, to be honest, to have integrity, to live, love and die with my whole heart. Wanting is suffering. This three-word simplicity is one of the Four Noble Truths.
Whatever you can dream, you can achieve. Also not true. The more present we are, the fewer dreams we entertain. Dreams are left-overs.
Ideally, we would not have ideals. The idealized self is a false god, a source of suffering. ‘Oh, look what I should be.’ Wherever should is, conflict also is. Conflict consumes energy. Energy is love, and conflict devours it, leaves a husk to walk around saying, “I’m fine, thank you.”
Advertisers are idealists—as, for the most part, are politicians.
Taken to its loveless extreme, idealism is patriotism. And then it is war.