We do not make it happen. We are to whom it happens. We are not actors. We are the the acted upon. The truth is what surprises us, what we did not foresee.
Bet on it. Unless you’re frozen solid, something unexpected is going to happen.
Natural behaviour is spontaneous behaviour, which is free, easy and graced, also unplanned, uncaused and having no obvious relation to external stimuli. Our structures cannot tolerate spontaneity. Observe how a government briefing unfolds.
Things happen unexpectedly. We often call these things accidents. But there are no accidents. If something happened, it had to happen. Things happen for numberless reasons. They happen because the universe happened.
Our thoughts and feelings are completely unbidden. We don’t say, ‘Now I’m going to worry for 20 minutes,’ and then do just that. Our thoughts and feelings cannot be controlled. They happen to us. And then something untoward occurs. We get attached to them.