Men in groups

There are two kinds of men’s groups—violent and non-violent.

 OK, so basically just one group.

Men in groups

My colleague Keith Fraser and I facilitated men’s therapy groups at a medical clinic for ten years. Everyone in these groups had a job. The job of the closed off guy was to express himself. The job of the overbearing alpha was to make himself smaller. I discovered there are two types of groups—working groups and all the rest.

Counselling men

In counselling, the essential thing is to see a man as he is, not as he imagines himself to be.

Awakening

After his experience with cancer, Mark Nepo had this realization: We are not what happens to us.

Every therapist needs to bring this to the office. No one awakens in his comfort zone.

Seer

A therapist’s first and pre-eminent responsibility is to see a man as he is, not as he takes himself to be.

Krishnamurti: In the seeing is doing.