We are exhorted to make a choice, pick a side, don a colour, follow a leader, take a stand. But isn’t the penny in my pocket two-sided? Am I not headed and tailed?
Men tend to struggle with, even to feel strangled by, “I love you.” More easily and powerfully expressed: “I hate you.” Nationalist leaders know this about men. Stadiums are filled with their chants.
Deepak Chopra has said that everything we value, including love and science, comes from the inside. The recognition of this initiates a waning of our mesmeric fascination with the outside, a gentle falling away of our predilections and attachments.
The most intractable anger is anger that’s rationalized—that is, made righteous.